Some folks spend their whole life taking care of others. The world needs people who care, but is it possible for someone to care too much?
Without excellent personal boundaries and time management skills- caring folks eventually burn-out and dry up, energetically. In order to create balance they may attempt to over-control the people and situations in their life, or hide in the shadows, crediting everyone else. Eventually, something climactic happens to them, an opportunity to get back to their core, an invitation to refocus. A symbolic (hopefully transformational) "rock bottom" is reached- usually via health issues, the loss of a loved one, career, or precious personal belongings, an accident of some kind or drugs/alcohol.
These deeply loving and caring people generally take on immense responsibility. They are most always in a helping profession, teaching, advocating for others, assisting with the healing of others.
Through the years, I have found that the most compassionate and loving people in the world aren't always the best version of themselves with the people they love, those who are close. Family and loved ones for these folks can commonly present as a burden or obsession. Finding balance with close relationships and home-life are where these individuals seem to be most challenged.
Because surface-level relationships are easier to manage and require less emotional involvement, this is where they may opt to spend most of their time. They work a lot, participate in public activities, volunteer, appear as a wonderful citizen. They are wonderful citizens!!! Meanwhile, their loved ones may be starving for real connection, affection or even feel pushed away by neglect or an over-protective approach.
As I sit this morning in contemplation at a local coffee shop, observing personality types and how they present in public vs. how they manifest in personal lives, I recall a story about a celebrity who recently lost their child to suicide. It brakes my heart and I wonder how often this is the result in situations like this.
Take care of you. Let the people you love know you love them. Work to create balance in all things.
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