Some days we just don't have the energy.
It's hard to get out of bed, get showered, dressed, eat or do just about anything.
Sometimes we can push ourselves past this. Othertimes it may be a message to slow down. Maybe we need to sleep, rest, grieve, cry, be angry, nurture, heal.
We don't need an excuse or reasons why. However, not paying attention can lead to serious burnout.
The people who truly love us, understand and respect our need to take care of ourselves. They will even help, if we ask.
When we listen to the natural rhythms of our body, not only do we become more in-tune with ourselves, but all of life. We are a better person, partner, parent, co-worker and friend. We're more effecient and effective with everything we do.
Viewing "down days" as an opportunity, a crucial part of being our best self, helps us stay well and teaches others the importance of self-care.
There's great work to do. #Rest. #Recharge. Be well and be #Ready.
If you ever want a decent career or have a desire to sell services or products in real life, there is something you should know… People don’t have to “like” your stuff.
It takes less than 1 second to “like” a post. However, people aren’t consistently liking your posts for a myriad of reasons and you really do need them to.
Here are some reasons why you’re not “yet” winning on social media:
Most of us were taught that the two main topics to avoid at the dinner table are “politics” and “religion.” If you’re smart, you follow this on your social media platforms as well. If you’re a political poster or often share your opinions about a favorite cause, you are losing more engagement than what you’re gaining. Regardless of how right you are or how wonderful the cause, you’re shooting yourself in the foot by posting about the president, saving the rain forest, gun rights or your favorite charity. Your gratification (if you get any engagement) will be short lived.
-People are deciding whether or not they like you-
Your social media platforms are hosting how the world sees and interacts with you. This isn’t the other way around anymore. Everything you share and post is helping the world form an opinion about who you are. You might say that you don’t care, but when you go try to get a career or have a decent relationship, you will care. Employers are looking, potential partners are looking, everyone is looking. People want someone who adds value to their company and life. If you are a douche online, people won’t invest in you.
-You don’t engage-
You exist on social media platforms but rarely engage with other people or their posts. You come on, troll around infrequently and leave… You invest nothing. You get nothing.
-You post dumb stuff-
People like what benefits them. If you are not delivering value with your posts, creating a reason for others to interact with you, they won’t. If you post silly things you may get lucky sometimes and get a few likes. If your posts encourage thinking and regularly challenge others to engage in a positive way, they will. If you complain, share cat photos often, check-in at chain restaurants, ask people to share things, or assume that others have the same sense of humor as you, no… Just no. You aren’t getting engagement because you are approaching social media in a way that doesn’t serve anyone.
-People don’t want drama-
Your friends have their own problems and don’t want yours. Like I shared earlier, smart people are doing their best to keep their online presence clean. If online pals don’t like your posts it may be because you share too much drama about your daily life. If you post photos of dinner every night (unless you’re a food blogger- this is not relevant content,) video clips of crying or being emotional about the basics in life, or how much you love your honey because they helped you post bail… Don’t expect anyone to like this. Any post that slanders or “outs” any particular group or person will reflect poorly on you. If you share any private text publically, no one wants to be a part of that, even if the other person is the chump. Remember, we are who we associate with.
At some point I think we’ve all done some of these things, it’s a learning curve. Get on top of it now and reap the rewards of the best opportunities possible. Go get’em tiger!
The other day I said a little prayer and asked my Oma for a sign that she had made it safely to the other side.
Yesterday was Easter… Last night after a full day with my family, I went into the bathroom to look for cold & flu medicine; nothing exciting, but I've been fighting a cold. As I washed some sticky cough syrup from my hands, I turned and noticed an old envelope in the medication box with my Oma’s handwriting and my name addressed on the front of it. I was stunned by what I was seeing, as my Oma just died not even a couple weeks ago. My eyes welled up, I eventually got the courage to open it... slowly...
It revealed an actual Easter card that she had given me years ago. I kept it, but had completely forgotten of it’s existence until this moment.
The card held the perfect message and reassurance that she had arrived home. In addition to the card, there was a sticker on the front of the envelope, a trademark of Oma. She loved putting stickers on envelopes. This envelope had a sticker with the image of a dove with it’s wings wrapped around a little German house and a tiny figure of a person walking toward it… For a moment it was a bit eerie to see such a clearly obvious illustration. It truly was the perfect sign, the perfect day, the perfect time.
I’ve been wearing a dove necklace around my neck most every day for the past year. The dove on this envelope was almost in the same position as the one on my necklace.
The night before she took her last breath I sat alone with her. I prayed and sang "Edelweiss" to her while holding her hand. At the time, I wasn't sure she was able to understand me, but this let's me know that she did.
I leave this experience with an ever greater sense of peace, knowing that when we leave here there is no doubt that our soul goes "somewhere" instead of simply ending.
Where or what is next is not clear yet, but someday it will be for all of us. One day we too will get to shed our body and see what’s next.
If you have a ring on any of your fingers, or don’t, you’ll want to read this.
Especially if you're interviewing, dating, or deciding whether or not you can trust someone; this information may prove to be priceless.
I became interested in the meaning of rings after reading and observing thousands of people, paying close attention to their hands. Over time, I noticed energetic patterns among ring wearers that differed from those without rings. Curious, I wanted to know more. When I asked a client why they wore a ring, the answer was: “I don’t know, I just like it” or “It’s comfortable” or “Someone special gave it to me.”
However, I detected an underline more subconscious reason for the interest. Sure enough, patterns emerged.
From my own research, I eventually became able to see and pinpoint specific details. Surprised by personality and behavioral patterns, I continued observing…
I discovered that how one wears a ring and what finger is selected can tell quite a descriptive story about them, more accurate than not. Expert readers are able to assess personality, specific behavioral patterns and characteristics solely based on physical cues like this.
An occupied “ring finger” indicates a relationship, being promised to someone, or cutting oneself off from being available for relationships at this time. However, there is much more…
Occupied digits do more than look pretty, they can subconsciously affect energetic flow that we may do well to be aware of.
Right hand index-finger ring wearers squelch their ability to be in control and assert power. Even if in a powerful role, these folks are not optimized. They’re hard workers who work harder at life than they have to, but if you mention this they’ll just get upset or ignore you. They are the royalty of avoidance. They cap their potential, play life too small but like to present an outward appearance as if this is not so. Whether in one’s personal life, business, or both; they’re not where they want to be… yet.
The middle-finger is the finger of “self.” Rings on this finger pool energy and block a person from living life to its fullest. Wearers usually claim that “it’s my style” or it’s “comfortable.” The truth is, on a personal level they are not in harmony. These folks are working on finding direction, attempting to keep their inner-strength in-check, not clear about how to take action. This finger can even point to hidden fetishes, unmanifest sexual desires, a lack of self-expression. Overall, a ring here is a huge subconscious blocker, a way to subdue the ego and keep “self” in check… Far more than a fashion statement.
A ring on the thumb is a protective measure to keep anger, aggression and desire of control under-wraps. Thumb ring wearers can be pretty committed to self-development but tend to struggle greatly. They commonly pride themselves on being “self-made” having had a rough start in life and secretly have no idea how to manage their emotions. Watch out, these folks can be a bit of a wild card. They are passionate, intense and explosive.
We all tell stories without ever saying a word. Learn what story you are telling the world and use your energy to create a more in-tune, well and successful life.
If you’d like to know more, let me read you. You will be astonished by what I know with just a quick assessment.
I look forward to helping you align with an even greater life.
Earlier, during morning meditation, I was thinking about personal growth and what kind of exercise might be fun to share with people who ask about transforming specific aspects of themselves.
Here's where my thoughts were led. This seems like such a simple idea to try but the results might amaze you.
Transformation and Growth Pot- Watch yourself Grow
Cut a brown paper bag into 3×5 or smaller pieces of paper. As many as you want. Write down what you want to transform and/or grow in your life on these pieces of paper. Be sure to write down only your own stuff- nothing about other people, or other people's lives. This is a personal exercise, for personal growth. keep the energy focused on you.
Fill a gardening pot 1/4 of the way with soil. Place the things you want to transform/grow into the dirt. Sprinkle with soil, plant your seeds and then water.
I like tomatoes, bell peppers, easy things that grow pretty fast... but that's my style. Some folks prefer other plants or flowers...
Grow whatever you want!
Water, nurture and care for your freshly planted, well intentioned Life Transformation Pot.
Use this as a visual aide and reminder of how self development and personal growth works. You just might be amazed how this entire process parallels your journey.
I love you.
Let me know how this exercise works for you! I'd love to hear about your success, process, personal goals.
You want to make more money with your Business, but you’re feeling stuck or don’t know how.
You provide fantastic Services and/or Products, but no one “gets” what you actually do. You find yourself explaining over and over, not making enough sales to thrive.
Needless to say, you’re frustrated, maybe even considered taking a day-job to float while you grow your business.
Stop right there. Halt!
Contact me and in less than 60 minutes you will get pumped up, realistic, re-inspired with an effective plan, strategy and tools to level-up your life and business.
Contact me. Or hang in there, work for yourself for the next 18 years and learn on your own… It’s up to you. Every day I wish that I had myself as a resource when I started my first business in 2000.
If $200 would have saved me the 18+ years of tough entrepreneurial lessons, I’d have paid it in a heartbeat. Besides, as a business owner, if we don’t have a marketing/ad and training budget we’re not serious; we’re just messing around. Anyone who knows anything about money understands the importance of wise investments.
Let me give it to you straight; after meeting me, (if you listen,) you WILL make more money. You will think more like a business person and streamline the process of understanding why no one is buying what you do.
Instead of going through hard, frustrating times on your own, let me spare you the headache, heartache and money that learning this crazy shit on your own will cost. I will get into every challenge and issue with you, I’m not afraid.
If there’s something I don’t know, I will get you the answers or get you to the person with your answers. I promise, I know them. They are also my client.
I want to see you happy, doing what you love, running to the bank because when you talk about what you've learned from me, you make us both look awesome.
Let me help you streamline what you’re up to and make 2018 YOUR GREATEST Year Yet! Contact me. Let’s do this.
With much to consider, 2017 leaves us. Pretty big topics were covered this year, ones that have been hiding under the doormat for ages, right in front of our face. In addition, we learned a few new skills that will serve us as we approach 2018. Our pains, fears, weakness and tender areas were highlighted with big opportunities to start fresh and new. We got to practice being vulnerable and raw, whether we liked it or not.
In a “1” year (which 2017 has been, “Numerologically speaking”,) we begin new projects, start a new position, take on a new role, physically relocate to some new place, begin a meaningful adventure, bring something powerful from within us to life, or all of the above.
This year was pivotal since "1" years set a theme for 9 years that follow. “1” years are a "setting a theme” year. “1’s” are a massive conception year, brainstorming and creating the foundation of what the next 9 years will be growing. How we foster this is up to us. Other “1” years were 2008, 1999, 1990, 1981, etc. If you look back at these times you may notice a pattern in the world and in your own life similar to what 2017 delivered. Theme years lead up to a “Fulfillment Year,” which occurs 8 years after… What we are setting in motion will be in its fullness by 2024. We get to witness what we have been collectively creating at that point; on a personal level it may be wise to keep track of this.
It’s almost a wrap for 2017 and it’s been fascinating to be a part of. Have you found the themes yet?
As we embark into 2018 our subject is “relationships.” At home, work and on an international level, relationships will be highlighted. Growth and transformation are taking place on the micro and macro-cosmic levels.
Politically, it will appear as one of the most disjointed times in history, proving the convenience to learn to play more kindly with others. Work relationships will be tested and sensitivities will be on high alert. Pay attention to any-“one” or any-“thing” that rubs you the wrong way. Use any noticeable resistance as an invitation to dive deeper and explore parts of you that could use a bit of fine-tuning. If you’re single, not wanting to be, self-development and focused attention inward at this time will yield fruitful rewards. Stay alert, awake, aware and listening. It all points back to you.
If you’ve done your personal work already, great! You will revisit areas you thought you had already dealt with, deepen and expand this. Past loves may also resurface. You don’t need to get back with them. You really just need to pay attention to the lesson they taught you, but you probably won’t listen to me on this one…
Overall, this year may make you emotionally feel like running. You will want to leave and hide. Emotions will be intense and rampant. You won’t just be handling yours, you’ll also be handling the emotion of everyone in your orbit. Be sure to surround yourself with people who are dedicated to a path of personal growth and wellness to help keep yourself on track. You’ll thank me later. Please remember, themes in life appear until they are completely resolved. Only you can do the work.
Be very conscious with what you allow into your realm of perception. Everything your brain is fed will have a chance to grow with each drop of attention you give it.
Our quality of life and overall wellness depends on our ability to remain steadfast, holding the highest vibration of greatness possible in our heads and hearts.
I wish you the brightest Holiday Season.
Team up with me to make 2018 your best year yet @ Psy-Chick.com
There’s something about a day of recharging alone at home, uninterrupted, no tasks. It’s a special reprieve, a way to realign with self and life. Spending an entire day under the covers with the goal of doing “nothing” other than listening, reconnecting with self is rewarding.
I didn’t shame myself for getting nothing done. I didn’t think of all the things unfinished that I “had” to do. I didn’t do anything other than lay in bed, listen to my body, reset my thoughts (any that I didn’t want there,) processed emotion as it arose. I let myself deeply relax. I took naps, ate food that made me feel good, made sure the whole day was about me. I took a Me Day.
It’s not selfish to take care of ourselves; it’s selfish not to. We forget that we are an energy system, sometimes not optimized. Self-care is crucial and gets everything done. Without it, we become ill and non-functional.
Listening to our body can save us an immense amount of pain, discomfort and ineffectiveness. Take time to recharge, realign, renew. Your life and everyone in it will thank you.
Some folks spend their whole life taking care of others. The world needs people who care, but is it possible for someone to care too much?
Without excellent personal boundaries and time management skills- caring folks eventually burn-out and dry up, energetically. In order to create balance they may attempt to over-control the people and situations in their life, or hide in the shadows, crediting everyone else. Eventually, something climactic happens to them, an opportunity to get back to their core, an invitation to refocus. A symbolic (hopefully transformational) "rock bottom" is reached- usually via health issues, the loss of a loved one, career, or precious personal belongings, an accident of some kind or drugs/alcohol.
These deeply loving and caring people generally take on immense responsibility. They are most always in a helping profession, teaching, advocating for others, assisting with the healing of others.
Through the years, I have found that the most compassionate and loving people in the world aren't always the best version of themselves with the people they love, those who are close. Family and loved ones for these folks can commonly present as a burden or obsession. Finding balance with close relationships and home-life are where these individuals seem to be most challenged.
Because surface-level relationships are easier to manage and require less emotional involvement, this is where they may opt to spend most of their time. They work a lot, participate in public activities, volunteer, appear as a wonderful citizen. They are wonderful citizens!!! Meanwhile, their loved ones may be starving for real connection, affection or even feel pushed away by neglect or an over-protective approach.
As I sit this morning in contemplation at a local coffee shop, observing personality types and how they present in public vs. how they manifest in personal lives, I recall a story about a celebrity who recently lost their child to suicide. It brakes my heart and I wonder how often this is the result in situations like this.
Take care of you. Let the people you love know you love them. Work to create balance in all things.
Every person receives insight and inspiration uniquely. Don't settle for feeling unwell when inspiration and insight don't seem to be flowing. If you're not feeling it, maybe it's time to get reconnected, realigned.
Reach out if you feel alone, talk to someone, don't settle for feelings of loneliness or hopelessness.
Tap into the ever-pulsating vein of creative energy, life, by learning to recognize stagnation and times when you are out of balance with yourself. Understanding stagnation is a wonderful gift, it helps us remember to reconnect and stay connected.
If you think you may be out balance:
Don't sit there alone in a nasty situation distracting yourself with mundane things. This will perpetuate stagnation, causing you to suffer longer than necessary.
Get out and participate with life, pray, meditate, volunteer, exercise, reach out, go to church, visit a place full of vibrant energy, talk to someone you trust, spend time with people who uplift you, dance, go to a festival.
There are limitless ways to improve the life you're currently living; dream BIG, keep your energy moving, stay connected, go!
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