Some folks spend their whole life taking care of others. The world needs people who care, but is it possible for someone to care too much?
Without excellent personal boundaries and time management skills- caring folks eventually burn-out and dry up, energetically. In order to create balance they may attempt to over-control the people and situations in their life, or hide in the shadows, crediting everyone else. Eventually, something climactic happens to them, an opportunity to get back to their core, an invitation to refocus. A symbolic (hopefully transformational) "rock bottom" is reached- usually via health issues, the loss of a loved one, career, or precious personal belongings, an accident of some kind or drugs/alcohol.
These deeply loving and caring people generally take on immense responsibility. They are most always in a helping profession, teaching, advocating for others, assisting with the healing of others.
Through the years, I have found that the most compassionate and loving people in the world aren't always the best version of themselves with the people they love, those who are close. Family and loved ones for these folks can commonly present as a burden or obsession. Finding balance with close relationships and home-life are where these individuals seem to be most challenged.
Because surface-level relationships are easier to manage and require less emotional involvement, this is where they may opt to spend most of their time. They work a lot, participate in public activities, volunteer, appear as a wonderful citizen. They are wonderful citizens!!! Meanwhile, their loved ones may be starving for real connection, affection or even feel pushed away by neglect or an over-protective approach.
As I sit this morning in contemplation at a local coffee shop, observing personality types and how they present in public vs. how they manifest in personal lives, I recall a story about a celebrity who recently lost their child to suicide. It brakes my heart and I wonder how often this is the result in situations like this.
Take care of you. Let the people you love know you love them. Work to create balance in all things.
Every person receives insight and inspiration uniquely. Don't settle for feeling unwell when inspiration and insight don't seem to be flowing. If you're not feeling it, maybe it's time to get reconnected, realigned.
Reach out if you feel alone, talk to someone, don't settle for feelings of loneliness or hopelessness.
Tap into the ever-pulsating vein of creative energy, life, by learning to recognize stagnation and times when you are out of balance with yourself. Understanding stagnation is a wonderful gift, it helps us remember to reconnect and stay connected.
If you think you may be out balance:
Don't sit there alone in a nasty situation distracting yourself with mundane things. This will perpetuate stagnation, causing you to suffer longer than necessary.
Get out and participate with life, pray, meditate, volunteer, exercise, reach out, go to church, visit a place full of vibrant energy, talk to someone you trust, spend time with people who uplift you, dance, go to a festival.
There are limitless ways to improve the life you're currently living; dream BIG, keep your energy moving, stay connected, go!
There’s a power in us. A light; A force that is connected to everything in existence. It’s the thing that wakes us each morning and runs us on automatic pilot through the night. It’s the essence of creation, the internet of the cosmos. Without this power we go out.
There is something in each of us waiting patiently, quietly, sometimes not so quietly, or patient…
It’s waiting to live through us, as us, as our life. We hear it sometimes, feel it often and ignore it more.
As we go about our day, we acknowledge it less than we acknowledge who we think we are, or hope to be. We forget, moment to moment, why we’re here, what we’re doing, and what we’re about. We go about (what we think is OUR life) experiencing our OWN things, separately.
Individuals are great. They make up the sum parts of the whole, but as individuals, we can only be whole together.
When we make a conscious connection with others there is a chemistry, or spark that is palpable. We are aware of this, but it’s easier to focus on ourselves, so we go back to being individualized.
The word “OUR”-selves is inclusive; even it knows better...
There is no separateness, no literal singularity, each of us is a purposeful ingredient in the recipe of creation, life, God.
1. Think of something you dearly love. Stay with that thought.
2. Go back in your head to the perfect moment, not a single moment before or after.
3. Write a list of your favorite things, on paper, with a pen or pencil.
4. Go for a walk and focus on your breathing and steps. If your mind wanders, go back to your breathing and steps.
5. Force yourself to laugh out loud for 3.5 minutes. (Think of funny stuff!)
6. Say a prayer of gratitude.
7. Plan your next vacation!
8. Call someone who loves you and if they don’t answer leave an adorable message.
9. Buy yourself flowers.
10. Write a love letter, from you, to you.
11. Go look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful, wonderful, loving, kind and successful you are.
12. Do something new, something you’ve always wanted to do.
13. Cut up fresh ripe fruit and enjoy it. Be mindful of every movement, smell, sensation, flavor.
14. Smile for 5 entire minutes.
August 21st, 2017 Eclipse
Eclipse: the total or partial obscuring of one celestial body by another or the passing into the shadow of a celestial body
Let me start by saying that witnessing a total eclipse is clearly a cool thing. It’s uncommon and seems wild to watch the sun fall into a shadow. However, energetically it’s more interesting; not because of the activity of the eclipse, but because of how we think and overthink events like this...
Anytime attention is directed at a specific event, the energy surrounding that event intensifies. This may make something more powerful (meaningful) for us. (Let’s be sure not to misinterpret the word “powerful” it often simply means “meaningful,” especially when it comes to metaphysical/esoteric ideals.)
An eclipse is a natural occurrence and doesn’t have “special” energy or influence of any kind. It’s merely a natural behavior of the cosmos. However, quite a bit of energy (here on earth) is stirring around this event. People are getting so excited, worried, overly cautious. They are spending huge money and planning trips to witness the event. Many hotel rooms are sold out in Oregon and running up to $2,500 per night.
Because of this, buying into an eclipse having some kind of special or supernatural power seems easier than wanting to admit that we just might be behaving out-of-whack with our own selves.
“It wasn’t me, the eclipse made me do it!” <---Don’t be this person.
It’s just an eclipse guys...
It’s neat and only as meaningful as you make it, just as any other day.
If you are feeling energetically wonky, it’s because you are not in alignment or in control of your energy. Maybe stop attempting to blame external things for your full-time internal employment opportunity. If you get stuck, feel stuck, or aren’t reaching goals as rapidly as you had hoped, let's have a little chat.
Don’t blame the eclipse.
Structuring the day can help if you're often feeling scattered or not as effective as you'd like to be. To maximize your time, these quick thoughts might help.
Here are some ideas:
Feeling the pressure? June 2016 is a "6" month numerologically.
"6" months deliver what I call 'personal heat', the opportunity to deepen the practice of getting out of our own way. We humans like to understand, control, perfect, make sense of things, drive. We think "our way" is the way things are supposed to be.
"6" months help us find our limits, grow past boundaries and transcend some pretty important parts of how we define our life and ourselves. If you're a bit wobbly, agitated, emotional, or out of sorts, it may be an indicator of personal growth taking place. Good work! Welcome to a “6” month.
“6” months are fantastic for putting the finishing touches on projects. You may find that your unique perspective and style is serving you mightily right now. Heightened senses with a keen eye for detail will set you apart during this time if creativity is what you’re up to.
Those with control issues will be tested and pushed to their limit. Whether we are seeking control at home, in our relationships, career, or society as a whole, a “6” month may put us in our place, reminding us of how much control we actually have.
If you've been working for years on mastering or completing something important to you, this month is especially in your favor. The reward is now more than ever within your grasp.
If you want to know more about how each month, or a specific month, combined with your personal numbers affects and shows up for you, let me know. I'm happy to dive in and explain your very detailed, special and specific path.
Look for my July 2016 blogpost, coming soon!
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Feeling a little shifty?
Welcome to a 9 year. “9” years are vibrationally charged years, packed full of transformation, movement, and opportunity for renewal. The energy of a 9 year is more intense and seems to come in waves.
Bound-up or unresolved attachments will be steamrolled. Spending time on a path that isn’t working will result in the rug being pulled out from under our feet.
Couple the intensity of this year with planetary occurrences such as retrogrades, super moons, solar flares and we get a potent energetic cocktail that is bound to get even the most stubborn cynics attention. Can you recall a more active year for deaths and transformation in the entertainment industry?
Not all 9 years are created equal. There are many other factors that play into why this year feels extra intense.
If you would like to find out how this directly affects and relates to you, check out more of Raea’s work and schedule your in-depth reading at: www.Psy-Chick.com
Today is #ChineseNewYear, also known as Lunar New Year, the year of the red #firemonkey. Already since the start of 2016 we’ve been experiencing exactly what the #redmonkey is about: change, release, cleansing, purging, intensity, passion, fun, exploration, creativity and surprise!
Maybe we truly are more like monkeys than we’d like to admit. Whether we’re jumping from branches or from one thing to the next, having a light-hearted and jovial attitude this year will serve us well. A big lesson for 2016 is the lesson of “How to laugh at the tough stuff.”
So many talented artists and magnificent teachers have crossed over lately. Of course it hasn’t been only TV talent, but big transition has also been manifesting within ourselves and those who are dear to us. I can’t remember a year with so much action. This is a fantastic year for the unexpected. Big opportunity, massive life changes, aggressive moves, and transformation. Ideas that have been knocking on the inside of our heads may be an invitation to dive in and explore something completely fresh and new. Don’t worry, we will be served a heaping plate of things that we haven’t anticipated. We will learn to embrace it whether we’ve prepared ourselves for change or not.
Monkeys are smart, logical, brilliant little buggers. They have the talent of making anything fun. If a monkey puts their heart into a project they are passionate about they will experience inevitable success. This means that if your sign falls on a monkey year this can actually be one of your most exciting and successful years yet.
Chinese stories talk about an idea that if you are in the year of your own sign it will be more difficult than previous years, but this is just not true with monkeys. Monkey folks don’t play by the same rules as everyone else. They make their own. Monkey people are driven, have trouble staying focused, tend to be forward thinking, but quickly master what they set out to accomplish. As long as they don’t get carried away by their short attention span they generally live a pretty exciting life. Monkeys play well with others and teamwork is a great plan for this year. Try not to isolate. Make yourself available so the power of life can access you and move accordingly.
Regardless of your Chinese sign, tap into the extra strong energy of this powerful year and take action. What you have been stewing on for the past few years has a huge energetic boost. Attention placed on important projects can be profoundly successful this year. Keep focused, and let’s just say –“the force is with you."
Hurt teaches us great lessons. It reveals our strength. It reveals areas where we can place attention for improvement. It helps us find our voice. The inner voice is never as strong as it is when we are hurting. Hurt is an invitation to more deeply explore ourselves. It is as “down and dirty” as we need it to be to find peace again. Pain gifts us with a way to pinpoint areas within that need immediate attention. Whether hurt shows up as a physical or emotional opportunity- it’s valid and real.
Hurt helps us ponder and reflect. It helps us find what we’re made of and where we came from.
Hiding from hurt doesn’t work. Stuffing it down inside, choosing not to acknowledge it doesn’t release it. The only way for hurt to be pardoned of its important duty is to give it another job to do. If hurt has permission it will continue with its work, no expense spared. However, hurt can be reassigned. Once hurt has another job it can serve us more appropriately. When we need fuel for endeavors hurt can propel us. It can be like a rocket directly pointed in the direction of our greatest success.
Hurt isn’t terrible. It’s a guide. It’s not a demon or enemy. It’s a nudge in the direction of our dreams.
It’s easy to fall into pits and snares. It’s easy to get thrown off course. The exploration of hurt leads us down many pathways. If we are brave and willing to go deep enough, all these paths lead back to God.
Whatever wars we create within ourselves, the more we suffer. Likewise, it’s not necessary to fight. By surrendering to hurt and asking it what job it would rather be doing, you will unlock a hidden gem.
Hurt doesn’t want to hurt. It doesn’t really like that job. Dialogue with hurt and it will reveal to you that it would much rather be doing the job of “love.” It would rather understand and be understood. It would rather help and be well. It would rather be of service than of hindrance.
So give hurt the tools to succeed at its new job. Listen to it. Understand it. Be with it gently, quietly. Embrace it. Like a frightened child, give it peace. Create a space so hurt can transform into the beautiful butterfly it was always meant to be… You.